Hadrat
Thanwi R.A says that one should totally refrain from keeping contact with
Na-mahram women or even young lads. One should refrain from glancing at them,
speaking to them in person or even over the phone and deriving enjoyment.
Unfortunately our nature has become such that we desire to see them and
interact with them all the time whereas merely being in the environment of
women has an adverse effect on a person. Many people change their tone when in
conversation when women or neaten themselves in order to impress the opposite
party, many men joke with women out of courtesy and feel that they are
displaying good character by doing so.
As long as a
person does not abstain from such interaction in totality, one will not be able
to attain extreme love of Allah Ta'ala. Sheikh Feroze Memon who is a Khalifa of
Hadrat Hakim Saheb R.A told a person that was sitting with his family and
watching a wrestling match, if you watch the news that is being presented by a
woman then won’t you desire that woman? He replied in the positive. Sheikh then
said to him, “Won’t your wife then desire the wrestlers that are being
watched?” He immediately understood and said that I am opening the doors of
Fitna.
Hadrat Thanwi R.A says, “I am speaking the truth, don’t even
create a slight contact with women as the harms are unimaginable. Due to such
errors many wives leave their husbands and want to marry elsewhere.
Hadrat Shah Hakim
Muhammad Akhtar Saheb R.A explains that if the electricity department informs a
locality that on a certain day electricity will be disconnected between 08:00 –
17:00, but the electrical cables should always be treated as live as the
electricity department could re-connect the electrical supply to conduct. In a
similar manner a person may think that he has no desire for women but no one
can take things for granted as desire could spur up in a person. No person is
protected from sin except that person who is protected by Allah Ta'ala.
In order to protect one’s glances from glancing at women one
will have to remain in the companionship of the Ahlullah (friends of Allah
Ta'ala) and request them continuously to make Dua for us.
Also, one should
be punctual with the Zikr of Allah Ta'ala. A person that eats well and sleeps
well is always fresh and lively whereas a person that lacks sleep or does not
eat well is lethargic and tired. Similarly those that do not make their Zikr
nor do they recite Quraan Sharif regularly, and miss their Salaah, get tempted
and attracted to women in person or over the net, etc. The Zikr of Allah is
extremely beneficial in protecting a person.
One person wrote
to Maulana Saleem Dhorat Saheb that he has no time for Tilaawat of Quraan.
Maulana responded by saying that it is not a matter of not having any time but
the importance of recitation of Quraan is not in your life. Generally people
ensure that they find time for those things that are important in their life.
Many people leave out Zikrullah as they don’t find any enjoyment in it. Hadrat
Thanwi R.A. says that a person doesn’t get the enjoyment of Zikrullah but
continues making Zikr will eventually gain the companionship of Allah Ta'ala
and the condition of his heart will improve as well.
This can be
understood by an example, if you visit a certain person daily who is close to
you, then such a person will enquire about you the day you are unable to visit
him. The person that makes Zikrullah and recites the Quraan Sharif is so to say
sitting by Allah Ta'ala. When he establishes a relationship with Allah Ta'ala
then all the luxuries and enjoyments of the world mean absolutely nothing to
him. This can be further understood by another example, a person wants to
travel from point A to point B. He travels on a beautiful road that has
beautiful flowers, water fountains, green grass etc. He enjoys the drive but
his concern is to reach the destination. If he drives on a road that has
potholes and may be un-enjoyable, then also it will not really bother him as
his intention is to reach his destination. Similarly a person that wants to
reach Allah Ta'ala is not concerned of the glitter and glamour of the world as
he has an objective in mind. In conclusion, the Zikr of Allah Ta'ala assists a
person in reaching this objective and goal.
May Allah Ta'ala grant us the Taufeeq of making Amal.
Ameen!
