A LESSON FROM A GIRL WHO IS GETTING MARRIED
Submitted by Mohammed Gilani on
Hazrat Maulana Maseehullah Saheb (Rahimahullah) says,
“Take a lesson from a young girl when she gets married.”
The world accepts that women are Sinf-e-Nazuk “(The weaker
sex)” and they are delicate.
Women are sensitive. A young girl for
eighteen to twenty years enjoyed being with her parents, fighting
and playing with her siblings, etc. however when she receives a
proposal and accepts and says,
“Yes! I am prepared to marry this boy.”
Then Hazrat Maseehullah (Rahimahullah) says,
“She tears herself away from her family and comfort of her parents
home like silk being pulled out of thorns.”
The very same girl in her one “Yes!” she hands over her honour,
her total izzat (respect), she hands it to her husband. The same
girl who would never lower her garment will do so for her
husband.
She will become such a person that despite having
given up so much she will now try to keep her husband happy all
the time. What a great sacrifice a woman makes for the husband.
A lesson for the husband is he must realise that his wife has made
a very great sacrifice and she has come as an Amaanat (A great
trust), so treat her as Amaanat and do not destroy this Amaanat.
Another great lesson we learn from the sacrifice a woman makes
is just like she is able to pull herself away from her family, we
should also pull our Ruh (soul) away from all the thorns the
gunahs (sins) we commit and we should hand ourselves over to
Allah Ta'ala.
A husband might not appreciate his wife for her sacrifice, but
remember Allah Ta'ala will definitely appreciate and honour a
person in such a way he cannot imagine. Allah Ta'ala will appreciate
a person for giving up his desires.
Therefore we should take
lesson from these young girls and how they hand themselves
over on the occasion of Nikah. We should hand ourselves
over to Allah Ta'ala.
From the book Nikaah and the Muslim Husband - Hazrat Moulana Abdul Hamid Ishaq Saab (Hafizahullah)